HOW WELL ARE YOU COMMUNICATING?

By Mary Kay Turner

A month into 2019, how is your year going? Are you communicating well with your spouse, your children, your parents, siblings, neighbors, and coworkers?

Sometimes we need help to find the best way to communicate with our families. Leslie Means, writing on herviewfromhome.com, suggests some questions to ask children that are likely to get better answers than “How was your day?” Specific questions usually bring better responses. She started with 4 questions: “What is your favorite part of your day?”, “What is your least favorite part of your day?”, “What questions do you have about today?”, “How did you show kindness or love today?” One can share expectations and help guide a child’s focus by asking the right questions in the right way.

She elicited questions from readers, expanded her list, and added questions to communicate better with spouses. These could be adapted for speaking with parents, siblings, and friends. Here are some examples: “What made you smile today?”, “Tell me 2 things you learned today,” “What are you looking forward to tomorrow?,” “If you could teach/choose the project tomorrow, what would you do?”

To improve your communication, you could attend the 2019 Mediation Services of Adams County Mediation Training, on April 26–27 and May 3–4. For more information about the times, location, and costs, click hereThe mediation training is a 22-hour workshop using recommendations by the Pennsylvania Council of Mediators Standards for Mediator Credentialing. Topics covered include conflict styles, active listening skills, information gathering, communication skills, problem solving, decision making, and agreement formalization. Professionally trained and certified mediators from Mediation Services of Adams County will conduct all training sessions.

For more information, call 717-334-7312 and leave a message if you get voicemail. Or e-mail mediationac@yahoo.com. Registration forms are also available at the Adams County Library, the YWCA and this website. Click here for online registration or here for a printable form.